TMIT Teammates #2: Julianne Annunziata Peters on Roots, Recipes & Reinvention

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Hi everybody, today's teammate
teammate is Julianne A Nunziata

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Peters.
Julianne and I actually go way

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back.
We both grew up in Pelham, NY. 2

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of her older sisters actually
babysat my brother and me.

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Julianne and I were on the swim
team together.

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We went to the same elementary
school and her husband Tyler

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even roomed at NYU with one of
my closest friends.

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But we hadn't seen each other in
years until our kids happened to

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meet on the beach one day and we
had one of those classic small

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world moments.
Fast forward to today, and

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Danielle and I feel especially
lucky to call Julianne our

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neighbor and dear friend.
We're so glad to have her here

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in person on the show today.
Hey, Julianne.

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Hello, thank you so much for
having me.

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Yeah, thanks so much for coming
in person.

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Yeah, this is really great in
the flesh.

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So fun and exciting.
How did you and Tyler decide on

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Del Rey?
So Tyler and I moved from New

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York City.
So we moved just after sort of

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still during in 2021, COVID and
New York City, which was

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obviously a tough time and, and
place to be.

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Our daughter Caroline, who's now
6, had just turned one.

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We felt very cooped up in our
apartment and that things were

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changing and it was time to to
kind of get out.

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We had a friend from New York
moved to Delray.

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I had never heard of Delray, you
know, growing up.

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We'd come down to Florida,
Miami, you know, Palm Beach,

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Boca.
I knew never heard of Delray,

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but immediately just sort of
liked the energy.

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I mean, I think honestly it felt
like we'd broken out of jail a

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little bit coming from New York
where it was so shut down, you

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know, going into another winter.
And here it just felt, you know,

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open and free and and you know,
like you said, lots of reasons

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to come down.
They can't argue with the

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weather.
So I think though originally

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Caroline was, was young.
I mean, she I guess was not even

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quite 2 when we first visited.
And then I think it was just two

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when we moved.
So honestly, I feel like it's

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sort of a selfish adult decision
at that point.

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I wasn't thinking about schools
or necessarily, you know, the

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rest of our lives or her
childhood or whatever it was.

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I think it was a little bit
let's let's try this out.

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We feel a little stuck where we
are.

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It's, you know, home isn't
necessarily home anymore.

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Can you talk a little bit more
about that?

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So like, when you and Tyler
think about staying in Delray

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Beach and putting down roots
here, what are some of the

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things that really are keeping
you here?

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Yeah, it's, it's a good question
because it's I think I have the

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last few years, I keep waiting
for that moment of Oh no, we

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need to be back home.
And I still think I call it

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home.
And it's, it's a strange

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feeling, but you know, the, the,
the hardest thing I'd say is

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being away from, from family
number one.

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I mean, I think that's, you
know, that that's the only thing

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when I think about, you know,
potentially going back is just

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proximity to my father and, and
my sisters.

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And, and of course we have, you
know, good friends there.

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I think it's just there's a
different energy and outlook on

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life here that I think, you
know, it's probably not

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particular to Pelham or New
York, but sort of the Northeast

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in my mind, maybe elsewhere.
But that's where I grew up.

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And what I know that, you know,
like it's life's just a grind

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and a struggle and you're always
just working, working to get to

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to something, you know, and
especially living in New York

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City, you feel this or I
certainly did.

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You know, I'm in the greatest
place on earth and nothing's

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better than this.
And you're very focused on, you

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know, I'm a new sacrifice on
space and, you know, and all

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these different things.
But I am in the greatest, you

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know, place on Earth when you I
think it takes leaving there to

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realize, well, there's there's
so much else out there.

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And it's not necessarily that,
you know, the greatest thing on

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Earth, but I think the people
seem to just enjoy life more

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here, you know, and not
obviously there, you know, mix

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of different things, but but not
at the expense of

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responsibility, but you can do
both.

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And the reason that you work
hard and put in this time is

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that is to then enjoy, you know,
that hard work.

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And that's something that
actually Tyler sort of

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originally pointed out to me
that I've didn't think of at

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first.
I think at first it was sort of

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the weather is great and you
know, we're outside a lot more

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and, you know, now I I
definitely see that.

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And I think it's just, I don't
know, people are people are

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happier.
They don't take themselves as

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seriously.
It's just it's been a sort of a

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breath of fresh air in that way.
I love that the FAU basketball

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team, or maybe just FAU in
general, their tagline is

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winning in paradise.
And I feel like when you take

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New Yorkers that are really good
at the grind and you put them in

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this space, it's actually a
beautiful balance because we're

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not going to lose that New York
City toughness.

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Yeah, right.
And like work ethic, but now

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when the day is done, I get to
go and watch the sunset on the

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beach as it goes to coming home
to my mark cramped apartment,

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which is also, which was great.
We, I think we all like had our

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20s there and had our young kids
there, but I don't think

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anything other than COVID would
have gotten us out of Manhattan.

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And I'm so grateful that it did.
Like I we, I was there for 16

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years.
I never I didn't know what I

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didn't know.
Do you know what I mean?

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Of course.
So I too am really grateful for

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the balance that because you're
never going to take the New York

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finance girl out of me and I
don't want to, right.

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But it's really nice to put me
in this kind of paradise

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setting.
So I really do feel like it's

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the.
Best of both worlds, absolutely,

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I agree.
No.

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And it's so cool that we we all
found ourselves here.

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I mean, it's very special.
Yeah, we just, we did an episode

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on Spirit where we talked about
serendipity and synchronicity.

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And so obviously, like
serendipity is a happy accident.

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And then there's this idea of
synchronicity, which is when

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like the universe collides to do
something that really changes

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your life.
And I truly believe that meeting

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you on the beach that day was
just like synchronicity in

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action.
Hunter Ray Neufeld has never,

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ever gone up to another little
girl and said, Mommy, I want to

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play with her.
Like, that was the one never

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before and never after.
And I don't even know what

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happened, but it was like such a
wonderful.

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I feel like both of us were
pretty new to our Delray Beach

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experience too.
And it was like, hello.

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Like, I'm clinging everybody to
her.

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And I'm like, Oh my gosh, like
fish out of water kind of like

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it gave me so much like
validation that you all were

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here too.
You know what I mean?

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I'm just so grateful because I
feel like we are strangers in a

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strange land a little bit and
navigating people in schools and

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cultures different.
And you and I are targeting

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different courses like, you
know, but we can really we have

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like a shared foundation, which
has been such a gift.

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I.
Think, No, I couldn't agree

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more.
It was that, Yeah, I I forgot

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exactly how that day unfolded,
but it really was just.

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It happened.
Yeah, that's a small, small

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world.
But yeah, no, I feel grateful to

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have ended up here and to met
you guys or see met, you know,

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run into you and that way you
get and reconnected with you.

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Yeah, exactly.
I mean, yeah, it's what, 20

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years apart at least, right?
Probably haven't seen.

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Your.
Swim Team.

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Yeah, right.
I know this.

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Girl.
Yeah, those are the that's those

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you.
I have very fond memories of

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those summers and at PCC that
was that was a good.

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So what is?
It back for your family culture

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today because I mean, obviously
you mentioned that you have

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three sisters and you liked a
lot about growing up.

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So when you think about family
culture, you know both back then

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and now what what really comes
to mind.

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So I think for me, the biggest
thing is just feeling like you

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are part of a team and that you
belong somewhere.

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I think that sense of being
tethered to something bigger

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than than yourself.
I think when I've sort of felt

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the most uneasy in my life is
when you I feel untethered.

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And I think I always come back
to that.

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And in talking of, of, you know,
about family culture and, and

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when I started listening to your
podcast, of course, you know,

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I'm thinking of creating that
for my, you know, myself and,

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and for my daughter.
But I immediately think of my

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upbringing and just because I
did, I have, you know, very fond

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and positive memories of
childhood growing up, you know,

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in a big family.
And I think, you know, one of

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the challenges for me now is how
do I create that culture with

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one child that I had, you know,
with, with six of us, you know,

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versus a small family of three.
But I, I think for me, it's,

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it's looking to my parents, you
know, especially my mom, how she

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really created culture in our
home, our traditions, the things

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that I looked forward to.
And then how, you know, how do

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I, you know, make Caroline have
that same, you know, I want her

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to look back on her childhood
and feel the way that I did.

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So I think a lot of it is, you
know, chasing that a bit.

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And of course, you know, nothing
was was perfect, but you know,

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and you can fine tune things
here and there.

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But I want her to overall come
away with the same feeling I

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did.
And I think that's a challenge

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for me now is how do I do that?
Sure.

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What were some of the things
like?

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What did it mean to be in an
ansiata?

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What does it mean today?
Yeah, so I think it's like going

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back to this kind of idea of a,
of a team.

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I think it was definitely a a
sense of belonging.

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But with that came
responsibility and some

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expectations.
And I think it was, you know,

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for, for, for my parents, they
were not overly strict or, but

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they were very traditional in
their, in their sort of views

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of, you know, they could just do
well in school, have a good

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grades.
You know, it was respect us,

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listen to us.
Like it was, you know, somewhat

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of a formula and we were
expected to sort of perform to

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the best of our abilities.
I think that for my parents,

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they, you know, felt like they
gave us all the opportunities in

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the world and we were not to
squander them.

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And so I didn't feel an enormous
amount of stress or, or pressure

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or competition, But I do think
that is also related to the age

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gap or as I think the older ones
growing up in the same house

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really as peers at the same time
was probably, you know, caused a

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little bit more pressure and,
and angst potentially and

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competition, you know, among
them.

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But I, I think it was just more
so do your best, you know,

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you're, you're a kid.
So you're, you know, you don't

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have other responsibilities
outside of school and being a

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good person and do those things.
And then, you know, with that

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came all of the wonderful things
and the joy and the, you know,

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we had a lot of, you know, just
family traditions.

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I mean, my mom, just everything
was special that she created and

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put on, even if it was, I mean,
she cooked meals for us every

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single day and we all sat down
to a family dinner, which you

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guys have an episode on.
And, you know, something that I

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to also struggle with because we
don't really have that.

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And you know, every holiday,
every everything was, was, you

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know, from special occasions to
to day-to-day, you know, she she

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made very, very special.
So yeah, I've started rambling

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and lost.
No, that's great.

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No, that's great.
I wonder.

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On the one hand, I feel like you
are so lucky and fortunate to

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have that.
How does it feel as an adult?

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Like, do you feel pressure to do
that?

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Not that you should, right?
No, no, yes and no.

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I think I, I think it's more so
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myself.
I really want to have that and I

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want to, I think so much, you
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years in February.
And I think, you know, all the

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more it's feels like trying to
continue or or recreate sort of

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that legacy and that, you know,
who she was.

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And I think a lot of, I mean, I
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model myself after is, is, is
her, but my relationship with

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her to me was, you know, the the
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And I think a lot of what I'm
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recreate that with with Caroline
now, which obviously it's, it's

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not exact.
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we're all different.
So, you know, we're, we're

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navigating that.
But I think it's, it's more so a

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a a pressure.
I wouldn't even call it back.

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So I think it has somewhat of a
negative connotation.

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It's just something that I
really want to do for for

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myself.
And then I hope Caroline takes

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away and has feels that bond,
you know, that that I deal with

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her, of course, but but tell
with my mom as well.

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So that's.
Beautiful.

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Thank you for.
Sharing.

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These Pella moms in the 80s and
90s, I tell you, they like, say

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what you will about the their
kids and all of the kids that we

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were surrounded with, there's
probably just a great normalized

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distribution of good and bad.
But there was something special

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about the moms in that town.
I think that you, you could have

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just described my mom talking
about the holidays, talking

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about dinner every night, you
know, making it special.

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Like, how did you know in the in
the moment that that was a good

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thing to celebrate as opposed to
run away from?

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Because I pushed against, I
pushed against that a lot.

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I don't know, you know, I, I, I
think I've just started thinking

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about all of these things now as
I mean, really from, from

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listening to your podcast, it's
been nice to reflect.

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But you know, I credit my, my
parents and I think my, you

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know, my older siblings
definitely helped create, you

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know, create and shape that
culture too.

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And I, I don't, I don't know, it
just, it always felt, I always

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looked forward to it.
It was always fun, you know, and

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we had of course friends and
different activities that we

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were involved in.
But, but for me, I don't know, I

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was always more of a homebody, I
think.

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And I would come back to that as
first choice.

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And so, yeah, I don't, I don't
know exactly what it was, but I

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still, you know, going into my
dad's house, I have, I get that

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feeling of, of being a child
again, like on Christmas

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morning, like, I can, I can
still feel it somehow, you know,

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And it's just I, I just I, I
credit my, my parents with,

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with, with creating that.
Yeah.

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I don't, I don't know, exactly 4
times over.

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Yeah.
Well, maybe that's maybe by the

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time they got to me, it had it
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So maybe there was some.
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We need to have another one.
No, you're.

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Too, No, you know Speaking of
that house and going back to

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that house, your dad is moving
right and you so you are going

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in a couple of days for your
final.

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Yes, your final stay at the
house.

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I know it's it's going to be
emotional.

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I haven't, there was a period of
time in high school where if my

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parents mentioned selling the
house, I would just burst into

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tears.
And, you know, and I'm not, I'm

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not there right now.
But I always thought, I think

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part of this, you know, I'll end
up in Pelham was and I will end

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up in that house.
And I wanted to somehow exactly

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recreate what I, you know, the
experience I had.

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And again, I don't that's
shifted.

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And so I don't have that, you
know, feeling of missing out on

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on that.
I I feel like I've been a good

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I'm, I'm where I should be, but
the nostalgia factor and I am

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not good with change.
I could very it's it's, you

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know, I know I'm going to be OK,
but going through it is

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stressful for me.
So it's been, you know, I think

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a while coming.
I'm surprised he actually stayed

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in the house as long as he did.
But I'm I'm thankful to have

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this one sort of last hurrah and
also just have been able to

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what, when we transition to
living here, have that as a home

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base still, I think it made the
move that much kind of easier to

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do, probably much to the chagrin
of my father, who did not want

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us to go.
But it felt like I always had a

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place to go back to.
And not only, and I'm sure we'll

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find that, you know, elsewhere
and I feel very comfortable in

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my sister's homes and whatever
else.

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But it just, it made it made
that easy to feel like I'm going

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back to this place that has
meant everything to me I spent

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my entire life in.
And it's always there for us.

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So I think, you know, packing it
up in a couple weeks is going to

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be traumatic, But I'm, I'm very
lucky.

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I, I'm grateful that it worked
out this way because it's under

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contract, but we don't, I, I
wasn't sure if we were going to

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be able to come back to it
because he put it on, you know,

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the mark in the spring.
But we're in a good spot where,

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you know, we'll, we'll, we'll
get to stay.

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And I think for me, you know, I
try to tell myself, especially

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if, you know, my mom is not in
the house anymore.

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It's, you know, it's the
memories, it's the feelings.

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It's yes, the house.
It does that for me, but it's

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not the house that did it.
Yeah.

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Is there is there anything from
the house that you can bring

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down Florida?
Well, my dad is just basically

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if you guys want anything from
the house, he will give you

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anything that is not like nailed
down to the ground.

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He is just trying to in purge
mode.

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But there's nothing made.
I mean, so my mom again, was, I

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mean, a fantastic cook Hostess.
She just everything was, was

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special and nice and she had so
many, you know, like serving

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dishes and things that just
remind me of holidays in

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particular.
But just, you know, and any kind

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of family dinner get together
and there's some a few of those

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items that I'd like to have it
just remind.

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It makes me feel close to her.
I mean, one of our traditions

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that I like to to attempt to
continue on with Caroline is, is

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cooking together.
We used to, we used to make, you

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know, cookies for Christmas or,
you know, bake XY and Z.

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And so having something like
that actually her rest, she has

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a an very old fashioned file box
of recipes handwritten that

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that's that's 100% the thing I'm
taking.

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That's amazing.
Yeah.

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I mean, no rhyme or reason.
I think there's like the

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alphabetized tabs, but
everything is just, you know,

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throw thrown in there so that
that I will take with me the

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rest.
You know, it's, it's stuff.

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They have a lot of nice stuff,
but I, I'm, I now I'm starting

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anew.
Yeah.

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Speaking of starting anew, what
are some of the traditions that

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you and your sisters want to
carry on?

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You know, you all have your own
families, but I imagine you're

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pretty intentional about seeing
one another and staying in

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touch.
How do you make sure to?

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What's the forcing function?
What's the holiday like?

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What do you?
Guys do to.

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To make it stick.
That I think was is a huge thing

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that, you know, without
explicitly saying it, my mom

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always wanted us to, to
maintain, you know, being close.

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And she said that, you know,
definitely set the stage for

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that.
And I think again, without even

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necessarily talking about it, we
also, you know, we feel the same

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way that I mean, we, we want to
spend that time together, but I

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think it's also sort of an ode
to her as well that we keep.

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That we, you know, maintain
those traditions.

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So one of the things when I was
first moving, as I said, I

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promise I will come back for
every health day because that

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was always very special time for
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And we have figured out and now,
you know, certain in laws come

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for certain holidays and not
others.

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And, but kind of the, the big
ones in our family, we're all

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together and my, my sister
Michelle has taken over posting

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duties for the most part.
And we actually have, there's

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another family from town, my
parents and this family, the,

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the parents of that family
started this Christmas Eve

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tradition in, I don't know,
probably the 70s.

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And now we still have that
we've, the party has dwindled.

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It's, you know, it's, it's
gotten much smaller.

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But there's one family in
particular that still comes over

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to Michelle's house on Christmas
Eve.

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And it's, you know, the, the,
the parents, then, you know, the

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next generation, now they all
have children.

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And so it's it, it feels like
we're recreating that in a very,

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you know, special way.
Absolutely it there.

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It really is.
I mean, we had just like you

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mentioned a tradition with
neighbors on Christmas Eve party

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at our house, but all the
neighbors and all their family

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and friends were welcome.
And I grew up in a in a family

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where my cousins on both sides
not just knew each other, but

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saw each other very regularly as
a result of that forcing

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function of getting everyone
together.

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Sounds like as you described
when you mentioned the in laws

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coming like that's kind of a
special not so common thing.

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Right, A good point.
I didn't think about it that

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way.
And I think part of it is we are

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for opinionated women who say we
are maintaining this Christmas

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Eve tradition.
But there is a definitely, I

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think the, the, I think it's,
it's palpable to the others that

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this is, this is fun and this is
meaningful.

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And I think, I don't think
anybody complaints about doing

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it.
I think it's become a tradition

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that has grown and that, you
know, we love adding, adding new

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people to the, to the mix.
So that is, yeah, that is very

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special.
It's great that you can maintain

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that bond and also live your own
and chart your own life down

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here.
Yeah.

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And I think that's, that's been
a good, I think it's been a good

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balance for me.
And I, you know, one of the

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things I've as the youngest, I
don't know if that's related or

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not, but there were times, you
know, Speaking of family

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dynamics that, you know, I felt
overly involved in other

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people's lives and sort of the,
the peacekeeper to some degree.

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And this has been sort of a
great change because I get a

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little bit of distance from
that, but still maintain, you

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know, the the closeness and and
all of the positivity.

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But it's yeah, it it's
definitely nice to have your

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own, your own space and and life
and then focus on that totally

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crazy tangent.
But I just I just wanted to say

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you're the episode on family
stories.

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I really loved.
And I made me think of how much

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of A storyteller, particularly
my dad, but my parents are and

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were, and I'd never really
thought about it until you, you

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brought it up.
But I think that was sort of

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exactly how they taught us all
of our, you know, values and

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what was sort of expected for,
of us and, and the opportunities

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given to us.
Because I think, you know, for,

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for them, there was both kids
of, you know, immigrants who

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came here and had nothing and
then created this life, you

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know, for, for themselves and,
and for us.

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And I never really stood, you
know, took a step back to think

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about that.
But I just, I mean, I have the

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same story of, you know, my
grandfather coming here and

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everything he accomplished.
And we think we all probably at

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some point wrote some paper
about him in the school and

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whatever else.
And it's just so much of my

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childhood, you know, through now
is just is storytelling and

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hearing about, you know, the,
the struggles and the feats of

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those, you know, people that
came before me.

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So I thought that that was I, I
think that's a really great

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thing.
And I'm trying to, you know,

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I've certainly repeated the
stories I've heard and I'm

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hoping that we can come up with
some new ones and have our own

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experiences.
But I think storytelling is a

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great is a is a huge part for
for anyway for for me and our

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family culture growing up.
I love that.

443
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I love that.
That's that's a great notice.

444
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:02,880
Thank you for calling that out
of.

445
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Course.
Cool.

446
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:09,040
Well, Mr. Nunziata, we need some
some tips on on how to

447
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incorporate story into our
family.

448
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:15,360
It was that around the table,
around the dinner table?

449
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Was that just like when you're
brushing your teeth?

450
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He'd just be like, hey, did I
ever tell you about?

451
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The time a lot, a lot of times
around the table, which we spent

452
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a lot of times in Italian family
around the dinner table.

453
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:32,000
You know, eating is a huge part
of our lives really in a lot of

454
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also my father's a dentist and
so he is like king of like

455
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:37,000
you're a captive audience right
now.

456
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:38,760
Can't.
It's just struck me as to why

457
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he's a good storyteller.
I was like, Oh my God.

458
00:25:41,360 --> 00:25:43,160
Right.
He has to fill the silence.

459
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:45,520
But it's that talk about like
overcoming city.

460
00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:47,480
He's too.
I mean, now, my mom used to

461
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:49,480
always say, like he was so quiet
when I met him.

462
00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:52,280
I took him out of a shell and
now I cannot get him back in and

463
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:56,680
he just like he ran with it.
So now he he likes still, even

464
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,320
though you're just at the dinner
table, would prefer you to be a

465
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:02,840
captive audience and not, you
know, opine on what his he just

466
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:06,120
likes to to preach, I think.
But now he's a fantastic

467
00:26:06,120 --> 00:26:09,960
storyteller and has had an, you
know, an amazing life and and

468
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:13,560
everything he created for us is
is is amazing.

469
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:15,480
But he I will say how to
incorporate it.

470
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,840
Repeat the same stories over and
over and over.

471
00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:20,080
I mean, till we or you know,
dad, you told us this.

472
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:23,600
Well, let me just tell you
again, you know, and you know,

473
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probably frequently embellished,
I don't know, but it's it worked

474
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:30,800
whatever or whatever it was.
Amazing next time he's down in.

475
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:32,760
Florida I'd.
Love to take him to dinner.

476
00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:34,400
And yeah, don't be careful what
you wish for.

477
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:38,240
Yes, well.
Yeah, we're, we're a few, a few

478
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,360
like 1500 miles away.
So that's right.

479
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:41,640
That's right.
We're probably, I think we're

480
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safe.
Yeah, this is great.

481
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:45,560
Thank you so much.
Thank you guys.

482
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:46,720
Yeah, I love it.
Thanks.

483
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:49,080
Everybody for listening.
Hope you have a great summer.

484
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:52,720
Ian, Tyler and Caroline have an
awesome time up north.

485
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,520
Thank you.
We'll see you when you get back.

486
00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:59,800
And excited to show Caroline,
her mom on the pod.

487
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:02,360
Oh yes, I didn't tell her.
She's going to not going to know

488
00:27:02,360 --> 00:27:04,280
what to do to what's.
Going to turn it on in the.

489
00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:05,640
Car is anyone listening to you
and.

490
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:10,360
We get this.
Thank you guys so much for

491
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having me and keep up the good
work.

492
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:14,600
Yours really it's, it's really
impressive and amazing what you

493
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:18,240
guys are doing.
It's been eye opening for me.

494
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:20,120
Made me think about so many
different things.

495
00:27:20,120 --> 00:27:22,240
So it's it's great.
Oh, thank you Julia.

496
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,080
That means a lot.
All right.

497
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:25,240
Thank you.
Thanks everyone.